Some people say, “Look for signs everywhere.”
Well, here’s your sign Dad… I think he wants to be an only child.
(Munchie, performing his signature sweeping move… The Nutcracker.)
And, here is where I get really defensive… because people will say things like, “Oh, he can’t be an only child… He needs someone to play with… Blah blah blah.”
Let’s get one thing straight. If we wanted your opinion about our family planning (which we clearly do NOT), we would ask you. That being said, if and when we decide to have another child is up to us. I am so sick and tired of people telling me if and when I should have another baby. Ultimately, that’s our decision… and doesn’t have anything to do with anyone else. Not our families, our friends, and certainly not strangers on the internet.
I read an article last week about a woman who was ashamed to be having her fourth child. She and her husband wanted a big family, but our society has some sick idea that everyone should have two kids. Well… how about this… just like every person is unique, every family is unique. Just like you should respect other people, you should respect their decisions. Support one another… don’t be weird.
AND… next time you think about asking a married couple, or a family with one child, when they are going to have (another) baby… stop yourself. Not everyone can have kids… and it’s freaking devastating. AND… some people might have one child and not able to have any more.
Then, you have people who don’t want kids at all… or only want a certain number… or want to have a bunch… and that is O-K-A-Y. Just stop putting pressure on people to have or not have kids… and good grief, please realize that your timeline has NOTHING to do with their decisions.
Oh… and to all the old people trying to pressure their kids to have babies… knock it off. It’s annoying. We remember that time you didn’t buy us a tiny pet turtle/kitten/puppy/pony… so maybe we should just start bringing that up. “Sweetie, I want a grandchild.” “Oh yeah, well I wanted a sparkly pink pony that pooped rainbows.”
Disclaimer: Doctor put me on steroids today… and steroids make me cranky. So, if this is too forward for you… thank my doctor.